Friday, February 14, 2014

Happy Valentine's Day My Loves!

A few years ago I wrote a special Valentine's day post to tell my friends how much I love them. This year I'd like to repeat that act because I feel an abundance of love in my life!

(as always ladies first)

  • Melissa: You are ALWAYS there for me. If not for you I would have been totally lost all these years! (literally (which way is North shore?!) and figuratively! LOL) Thanks for always seeing the best in me. I love you like you're my family...except more than that lol.
  • Marleen: You are the best! I can always depend on you to keep me grounded. I love love love LOVE you and your family!
  • Cherie: It was so amazing to get to see you this year! I love it when we get together because shenanigans are much more fun when done together! You are my wife for life and I can't imagine a better one!
  • Mahina: You are the best kind of out of town mistress a girl like me could ask for. LOL. Seriously though our friendship is so great because it's as simple as breathing! You show up, we hang out, have fun. End of story! Hope to see you soon either in AZ or HI!
  • Maka: This crazy Yelp Life would NOT be as much fun without you! I'm so happy we've become friends & definitely foresee a long future of friendship for us! Your secret nerdiness is just one of the things I love about you!
  • Melinda: I hope it's doesn't come as a surprise to you that I count you amongst my closest friends! We don't get to spend a ton of time together but I love that you are so friendly & patient & kind! 
  • Corie: Sometimes short (like you! haha) and sweet is the best way to say something. Thanks for being a good friend. It's always fun hanging out with you! Can't wait for you to teach me more about political stuff!
  • Michelle: Even though you're always busy you still seem to make time for me. I love you lots!
  • Malia: I'm so glad we've become closer friends! I hope to get to know you even better and hear more stories over wine!
  • Whitney & Kim: You two are both so far away and so grown up now! I miss you both TONS & TONS but am so happy you're doing so well! Although we don't talk often you guys are always in my thoughts & in my heart. Love you!
  • Emi: You are such an amazing person. Thank you for teaching me so much about love, joy, and happiness! (and marketing/event planning too lol) Every minute I spend with you makes me into a braver & better person. I appreciate the opportunities (and gentle pushes) you give me to grow and learn. I love you!
(And now the boys)
  • Doug: You are my platonic husband and best friend. You are also one of the very best and most gentlemanly guys I know. I know I can always count on you to be my moral compass and I trust you completely (which I think you know is a pretty big deal for me). I love you and am so thankful for your friendship!
  • Reymar: You are also one of the best and most gentlemanly guys I know! I'm so glad that you're my friend/brother-in-law (hahaha). I can't wait to go to Japan and have adventures with you and Doug! I love you lots!
  • Brandon: You & Marleen's love has always inspired me. It has shown me what I should be looking for in a relationship. This past year you've also inspired me by how you've really changed your life and gotten in such amazing shape! (seriously stop being so sexy okay?) Hopefully I'll be in good enough shape to workout with Coach Puka sometime soon!
  • Jacob: You are one of the nicest guys I know. You are a really wonderful friend and I sincerely think the reason I love Yelp so much is because it introduced me to you! Thank you for being such a great friend! I love you!
  • Nick: Thanks for always being so cool to me! I'm glad that we're friends :-)
  • Keli'i: I'm pretty sure you're not going to read this but I just wanted to tell you that you're awesome! I know you work hard but you always try to make time for all of us! Thanks!
  • Justin: You just want me to be happy and that really means a lot. I'm so glad we've been able to stay friends all these years!
  • Stephen & Ray: We might not hang out as much as we all used to but you two are definitely still people I love!
And to my many, many, MANY amazing & awesome Yelp friends (Grant, Richard, Mahina, Paul, Brian, Alycia, Laurie, Jordan, Russ, John, Amara, Talor, Michael, Anthony, & much too many more to name) thank you all so much for being such nice & friendly & wonderful people! 

All of you guys make me feel so very loved and appreciated! I am really so lucky & honored to be your friend! I love each and every one of you and hope you have a great Valentine's day!

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

I looked up and noticed the light today as the sun was about to set. Dusk. It was beautiful. The sky was lavender and navy and golden. It's my favorite time of day especially during the "winter" months. It's softer than daylight but not nightfall. As the sun's light yields to the moon's we, on Earth, are trapped between their two powers and can feel the pull of both celestial bodies upon us. It's a time to be more yielding, more sexy, more in love.

But unfortunately many of us spend that time trapped in daily commutes. Thinking of dinner plans, exercising, TV schedules or whatever little hurts (or even happinesses) we experienced that day, week, or lifetime. Rather than looking up at the sky and seeing how the dual light creates a soft glow on everything we stare unblinking into the brake lights of all the cars before us, change songs on our ipods, or text that we're stuck in traffic.

With 2014 being only 21 days old I want to try and remember to make every moment count. I know that it's easy to get caught up in the details of everyday life. Traffic, bills, errands, and horrible co-workers/neighbors/family members all take their toll on us. But someday, and possibly someday soon it will all be over. Just like that no more dusks, dinners, or daily commutes. So take a second, even if it's something as simple as looking out over the horizon at dusk, even if it's over a sea of red brake lights on the H1as you're dashing home or to the gym. Just look up, see how beautiful being alive is.

I'm not a "new-age" or "eco" type. I don't eat vegan or organic food or have a sustainable anything. (especially not a bank account hahaha) I don't even particularly think of myself as a "feelings" type of person. But I don't think we need to be that "type" of person to remember to be kinder to ourselves. I mean being angry & stressed out isn't going to make your day get any better. But having a drink (even if it's coffee) with a friend or listening to your favorite podcast or just going through the drive through and having a milk shake can dramatically improve your mood. If you take the time to give yourself that love, you're going to be a happier person when you finally do get to your destination.

I recently reconnected briefly with a beloved old high school teacher. It wasn't elaborate. A simple message on Facebook. But I took 5 minutes to thank this person because I realized that I wouldn't be who I am without his guidance in those tumultuous years. I can't speak for the receiver of my message but as the sender it felt amazing to simply send thanks and love into the world. I highly recommend doing anything that give you that feeling.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

November is my month of change

I know that most people usually wait until the new year to make BIG changes in their lives. And normally I love the New Year and setting resolutions. But I decided this year, that I'm ready to start making changes now. In November.

And why not? I mean who's going to stop me? (other than myself) like seriously though who's going to be the jerk who's all "You can't work towards being a healthier you until Jan 1 and you definitely can't take steps towards your dreams until after Christmas." (which really I don't even celebrate.)

Anyway here it is my first blog post for this "new & improved" (even though I get that's it's an oxymoron) version of myself.

So what do I have to report so far? Well, I've been working out more regularly. First it was yoga once a week and now I'm up to 3-4 workouts a week including running! Ok it's more like jogging with walking in between but whatever it's still positive movement in the right direction!

And I've been doing some writing for NaNoWriMo. Not as much as I suppose I should./could but again positive steps and all that. 

Oh and yes of course I'm back to blogging. Woohoo!

So stay tuned because I'm sure there will be lots of fun and exciting things for me to write about soon. Like how I'm going to clean off my desk because I can't be a writer with all this crap keeping me from my computer. Or how I ate a bunch of unhealthy things and omg so what I'll just deal with it by trying better next time and not giving up on everything.

yup. Oh! and in the long-term there's going to dating. Yeah. Saddle up partner. Things are going to get interesting!

Sunday, May 6, 2012

Are Japanese Women Better At Being Feminine?

What is it about Japanese women that makes them seem so feminine? I'm not talking about local girls who are part Japanese, part something else. I'm talking about those FOB Japanese tourist girls. The ones with the cute hairstyle and the super cute outfits. Sometimes when I see them I wonder about my own femininity and how I come across to them. I wonder about the hows and why of their "looks". How to they manage to look so girly but not girlish? Is it simply that they're thin and petite? Maybe it's their clothes? They do tend to wear soft colors, gauzy floating layers, and skirts or dresses. Maybe it's their hair + makeup? They're always made-up but in a way that doesn't call attention to the fact that they're wearing makeup. You won't see these girls wearing a bold red lipstick or blending their 4 different colored MAC eye-shadows. They also tend to have that brassy, orange-y colored hair and wear it either piled up in a messy bun on top of their head or down and pin straight.

But I don't think it's any of these things at least not separately. Even put together on an American Asian woman I think there would be some key element missing. What is that element? There's a part of me that wants to be snide and say "oh well obviously it's the stereotypical submissive trait" and it might be. It could also be as simple as the fact that their culture has very set behavioral standards for femininity. Their idea of femininity varies from ours.

American women tend to be more aggressive and outspoken. We can be bold, brash, and ballsy and still be feminine. Our femininity seem to be tied more closely with sexuality than with girlish innocence. Bikinis, skin tight "body-con" dresses, and mile high stilettos are the symbols of  mainstream American femininity. I think that Japanese femininity tends to be quieter and softer. It might sound judgmental of me to say this but their femininity seems like it's more about being delicate, fragile, and dainty. Honestly I think I could learn a lot from them.

Obviously I haven't really figured out a point to this musing yet. I had hoped that by trying to verbalize(?) my thoughts, some grand epiphany or at least some organization would occur but alas I must struggle on and continue to ponder.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Glee Season 2 & Finale Review

Glee is one of my “must watch” shows. In fact it’s one of the few shoes that I still watch “live” when it airs. But for me season 2 has been a little disappointing. There’s been too much wacky and zany moments; from Sue’s turn as the Grinch in “A Very Glee Christmas” to Emma’s sudden marriage to and subsequent separation form “Dr. Carl D.D.S.” to Finn thinking that a cucumber can give you AIDS in “Sexy.” (Then again is this any harder to believe than the fact that he thought you could get pregnant via hot tub.)

But I continue to watch because there are great moments/episodes. The post Super Bowl “Sue Sylvester Shuffle” was such a strong comeback from the shows two month hiatus. And “The Rocky Horror Glee Show” was also another notable episode.

My fear is that Glee is about to go the way that “Heroes” did. Yeah. Remember that show? “Save the cheerleader. Save the world.” And then the next three seasons were crap and they were canceled long after anyone was watching.

But onto the season finale: (If this review seems disjointed it’s because that’s exactly how the finale left me feeling.) I agree with Joel Keller’s TV Squad review for the most part. There wasn’t anything particularly “Season Finale-ish” in this episode. In regards to Finn/Rachel I was really hoping that she would remain true to her “no boys, no distractions” rule and seeing her and Kurt sing that duet together on the stage of Wicked really makes me cheer her on. But alas, the passion is too much for her to bear and she and Finn kiss and reunite in the middle of their set at nationals.

The kiss is not unexpected and it’s nothing special, except for Finn and Rachel. The world melts away and that kiss is the only thing that matters in that moment.

In other storylines we see Quinn’s evil plan was nothing more than a simple “tattle” on Rachel and Kurt for sneaking out when the Glee club was on lockdown. Seriously?! Where’s the conniving queen B from last season who schemed to convince Finn he was her baby daddy and planned to let Teri have the baby so she could fool Will? Instead all she wants is someone to love her, and all se needs is a haircut? Really? No going AWOL right before nationals? No locking Rachel into a closet and setting it on fire? I expected more from you Fabray. Much more.

There’s a moment where Puck & Zizes are sitting at the hotel bar and try to order drinks which seems fitting for their characters but slightly out of place in this episode. But there were a lot of other things out of place in this episode. In fact the entire ending seemed like it was cobbled together at the last minute.

After we find out that New Directions has not in fact qualified to semi-finals in nationals we’re back in an Ohio coffee shop with Blaine and Kurt while Kurt is describing the aftermath to him. Apparently Santana went all “Lima Heights Adjacent” on Rachel…which means screaming and failing at her in Spanish. And then the silent flight home. When Blaine comments on how well Kurt is taking losing he just shrugs it off as says he was just happy to have gone on an airplane and seen New York. Then Blaine drops the “I love you” bomb on Kurt who looks stunned for an awkward moment replying tightly “I love you too.”

To break this tension Sam and Mercedes enter and we’re treated with another odd/tense interaction with Mercedes and Sam claiming to have “run into one another” at the coffee shop and then they walk away from Kurt/Blaine and we see their hands intertwined as they whisper “do you think they know?’ to each other. Seriously out of left field.

There’s some Mr. Schue stuff too, where Matt Morrison sings a song, (which doesn’t really relate to anything happening in the episode) off his newly released album, then deciding not to go chase his Broadway dreams (even for just a summer!) after all.

What I think I’d like to see in season 3 is a return to telling the story of the Glee-clubbers. When will we meet Rachel’s two gay dads? (Who would have in all actuality NEVER missed her NY debut) and what about Sam’s homelessness or “Furt” and their family? I’d also would LOVE LOVE LOVE to see more about Tina/Mike if we could do so without breaking them up (because seriously? I <3 them)